Do You Mind If I Stand Next To You?

“What are you doing, Ray?”

“I’m standing in the middle of my backyard, hoping to find a quiet space. Get the hint.”

“Do you mind if I stand next to you?”

“Yes, this is my space. Don’t confuse that comment with any old social network application.”

P or B or C points, “Ray, your space is there. My space is here. You can’t have two spaces at the same time. It’s a law of spaceography.”

“I don’t think there is such a word as spaceography. Okay, stand there, be quiet and let me settle my mind.”

“Is so a word, language evolves every day. Is your mind unsettled? Did you try Tums?”

“That’s for an unsettled stomach, not an unsettled mind. If you don’t mind, quiet please while I do my mantra and breath deeply.”

“What mantra are you using? If I like it, I’ll use it too. Why did you step away from me?”

“I need more space.”

“I liked your original space better than my original space; since you’re not in your original space, I’ll claim it. See, I’m next to you again. Okay, give up the mantra.”

“No, I will not give up the mantra. And, please leave my original space.”

“I think closeness will help us bond. What do you think?”

“I don’t want to bond. I also don’t think I’ll find peace in my backyard.”

“That’s what I was thinking. I heard you go can get a good piece of chicken at Bub’s Barbeque.”

“I want peace not piece.”

“You’re unsettling my mind, Ray. Do you have any Tums?”

We all need to find a sacred space. We need a place where we can go and allow our minds to clear, bodies to settle into their natural rhythm. And, for me, a place to pray and be silent. I have such a space in my backyard. If I miss going to it for several days, I feel it. I hope you created a personal sacred space.



Author: Ray Calabrese

I am an optimistic, can do, and never quit guy. The spirit of hope indelibly marks my DNA. My research at The Ohio State University helped people discover the best in themselves and change their personal lives, public organizations, and whole communities. I bring the same spirit and enthusiasm to my blog to help those who grieve who find themselves suddenly alone, navigate their grieving. Join my more than 24,300Twitter (@alwaysgoodstuff). I promise my tweets are always good stuff. Please feel free to email me at

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