The Blog Is Not About You

“Good morning Ray. I’ve been giving my personality a lot of thought.”

“I’m glad one of us has. Don’t roll your eyes. Why are you folding your arms across your chest? Don’t turn away, what is it?”

“I want to be a PI. One of the hard-boiled kind. You know the old-fashioned rough and tough. Look at me. I’m beautiful, edgy, and tough.”

“You have the perfect personality to be a hard-boiled PI. I don’t have to add anything to it. Can I go back to writing my blog?”

“Will you help me? Let’s try one blog and see how it works out.”

“I don’t know anything about writing a PI blog.”

“How hard can it be? Every PI show uses the same recipe. We’ll substitute me. Someone is in distress.  They come to me for help. I take the case after a bit of haggling. I walk on the edge because I’m edgy. I get my way because I’m beautiful. I get the bad guys or girls because I’m La Flor the PI.”

“La Flor?”

“Clever. It’s Spanish the flower.”

“I know what it is.”

“Honestly, La Flor, I don’t know anything about being a PI. I only know about pi equals 3.14. And, even then, that’s where my knowledge stops.”

“I will dictate the blog for you. I will speak slowly enough so you can comprehend what I’m saying.”

“You’re not going to leave until I do this, am I correct?”

“You got that straight, Buster. See how easy I slip into my role?”

“Fantastic. I can only hope Hollywood is calling you. Start telling me your story.”

“La Flor struggled against all odds to achieve her dream to become a private investigator. She was tough, beautiful, and edgy. The only hindrance to her being the best in the business, was the wannabe blog writer, Ray.”

“Hold on, La Flor. Let’s leave me out of your stories. I’ve got enough going on without you creating more problems for me.”

“Thanks for the line Ray. You proved my point. I’m going to use that line in my story.”

“Hold on this blog is not about you.”

“If not me, who?”

Our lives are our stories. Each moment we are creating our stories with our conversations, relationships, and actions. La Flor wants to write a PI story with her as the heroine. I like that. Our life stories should have us as the hero or heroine in our unique story. I am going to start writing a new chapter. I know I can always end a chapter any time I desire and start a new chapter. 


Author: Ray Calabrese

I am an optimistic, can do, and never quit guy. The spirit of hope indelibly marks my DNA. My research at The Ohio State University helped people discover the best in themselves and change their personal lives, public organizations, and whole communities. I bring the same spirit and enthusiasm to my blog to help those who grieve who find themselves suddenly alone, navigate their grieving. Join my more than 24,300Twitter (@alwaysgoodstuff). I promise my tweets are always good stuff. Please feel free to email me at

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