Feel Good Tip ~ The 8 Things The Happiest People Do Every Day

The Happiest People Do the Following. How many do you do?

  1. They devote a great amount of time to their family and friends, nurturing and enjoying those relationships.
  2. They are comfortable expressing gratitude for all they have.
  3. They are often the first to offer helping hands to coworkers and passersby.
  4. They practice optimism when imagining their futures.
  5. They savor life’s pleasures and try to live in the present moment.
  6. They make physical exercise a weekly and even daily habit.
  7. They are deeply committed to lifelong goals and ambitions (e.g., fighting fraud, building cabinets, or teaching their children their deeply held values).
  8. Last but not least, the happiest people do have their share of stresses, crises, and even tragedies. They may become just as distressed and emotional in such circumstances as you or I, but their secret weapon is the poise and strength they show in coping in the face of challenge.


Note; A wise person told me, “Ray we always find time to do what we want to do.” If I want to be happier, I’ll find time to make the items on this list part of my life. Is it time for a personal assessment on how you choose to spend you time?

Thinking Out Loud ~ What Will I Become?

I conclude my reflections on Victor Frankl’s work Man’s Search for Meaning, with Frankl’s affirmation of the human freedom to determine what he/she becomes as Frankl says, “within the limits of his/her endowment and environment.” A human being is not one thing among others; things determine each other, but man is ultimately self-determining. . . . In concentration camps, for example, in this living laboratory, and on this testing ground, we watched and witnessed some of our comrades behave like swine, while others behaved like saints. Man has both potentialities within himself; which one is actualized depends on decisions, but not on conditions. P. 155

NOTE: Hopefully we will never experience the living hell of a concentration camp as Frankl and millions of others have. We, however, are confronted each moment with choices on how to live our lives. Will we be faithful to our commitment to a partner? Will we honor and love our parents as they age? Will we support fairness and justice for all people? What kind of neighbor am I; do help my neighbors when they need help? These are a few examples of the choices that we have to make. How we make our choices determines the kind of man or woman we want to become. 

Something to Think About ~ We Can Choose How We Respond

Victor Frankl in Man’s Search for Meaning challenges us to think about life in a way that is far different from what we read and watch in the media. He says, “We had to learn ourselves, and, furthermore, we had to reach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.  . . . Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answers to its problems, and to fulfill the task, which it constantly sets for each individual. Pp 85

NOTE: Our lives are not identical but they are similar. We each face moments of challenge. Some face burdens that make me marvel at their inner toughness and how they managed. I think of my grandmother (nonna), widowed with eleven children still at home. There was no welfare in those days. Yet, she knew her responsibility was to serve and protect her eleven children. To her credit, all eleven grew up to be productive citizens. We can’t choose what happens to us, we can choose how we respond to it. Stay strong.

Today’s Inspiration ~ It’s a Matter of How You Choose to Look at It

“You make mistakes. Mistakes don’t make you.”

Maxwell Maltz

When life knocks you down, do you rise to fight again?

When life knocks you down, do you rise to fight again? Everyone gets knocked down. It’s a tough blow. It knocks the wind out of us. We may wonder if we have the strength to rise again. We may wonder if we have the strength to rise will we have the strength to go on. The answer is a resounding YES! We are so much stronger than we can imagine. All the small hits made us stronger. They prepared us for the bigger hits. We all get them. They happen. When they do our choices are limited. We can rise to live and fight again. Or, we can give up and slowly die. To me, there is only one choice, rise, rise, rise, again and again. 

Where are you going?

Where are you going? Don’t Know? That’s a good thing. You’re not trapped into one way of thinking or being. When we’re not trapped into a single path, every path is open to us. We can pick and choose, try one out, if it doesn’t work, try another. There’s no need to worry about choosing a path, you’ll figure it out. One day you’ll look back and know you were on the right path all along.

Something to Think About

Self-disciple is one trait separating successful and unsuccessful people. It is the one trait that separates healthy and unhealthy people. It is the one trait that separates couples with successful relationships from couples who struggle in relationship. Self-discipline allows us to focus solely on what we have to do to reach a goal. It is the letting go of all other choices that interfere with the pursuit of the goal. The question that self-disciplined people ask when confronted with multiple choices is, “Which choice takes me closer to the goal I am pursuing?” 

Today’s Good Word ~ Direction

What direction are you moving toward? Is it a direction that will make you more fully human, more authentic? Is it a direction that will make you more loving and compassionate toward others. Sometimes we’re not moving, we’re stuck trying to figure out what direction we should move toward. In my experience, it is the stepping out in any direction and trusting that it is the right direction. We can have no certitude what we choose is the right direction. We can trust, if we put our heart into our journey, make an honest effort to do good, that the direction we choose will end up being the right direction.

A Better Life ~ Decisions

Life often confronts us with deep, conflicting choices. We often have two choice, both of which are desired by us. Yet, choosing one, means we forego the other. It is during these times of forced choices, if we have the courage to look, we discover our true values. Be careful choosing an apparent good, that my require you to give up something you deeply treasured. In these times it’s best to ask oneself, what the decision would look like  five years from now,. 

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