To change one’s life is not to change outer circumstances: it is to change one’s reactions.
How I respond to life’s circumstances creates the life I live. I think of something as simple as listening to someone say something I do not like. My immediate reactions are anger, defensiveness, counter attack, or retreat into my silent kingdom where only I am allowed entrance. Sound familiar?
There is a different way. I can choose to enter into constructive dialogue.
I can choose to seek to understand the other.
I can choose to listen and to respond in a way that furthers the relationship.
Have you found yourself in situations where you chose to set aside your initial ‘gut reaction’ and respond constructively? What was happening? Did it help to forge a more deeper dialogue?
Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.
W. Clement Stone
You are responsible for how your life turns out, and your attitude shapes that life for better or worse.
LOSS AND GAIN
When I compare
What I have lost with what I have gained,
What I have missed with what attained,
Little room do I find for pride.
I am aware
How many days have been idly spent;
How like an arrow the good intent
Has fallen short or been turned aside.
But who shall dare
To measure loss and gain in this wise?
Defeat may be victory in disguise;
The lowest ebb is the turn of the tide.
The Complete Poetical Works of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Build your house with the stones they hurled at you