Within everyone there is light and shadow, good and evil, love and hate. In order to be truthful, you must embrace your total being. A person who exhibits both positive and negative qualities, strengths and weaknesses is not flawed, but complete.
Each of us is a combination of light and shadow. We have a dark side as well as a light side. When we recognize our dark side, it is a humbling experience. It is also a liberating experience. We are liberated from thinking we are perfect. We become one with the rest of humanity.
Have you met your dark side?
If so, are you more aware when your dark side surfaces?
How have you experienced the struggle between light and shadow within your being?
In order to grow we must be open to new ideas…new ways of doing things… new ways of thinking.
To change one’s life is not to change outer circumstances: it is to change one’s reactions.
How I respond to life’s circumstances creates the life I live. I think of something as simple as listening to someone say something I do not like. My immediate reactions are anger, defensiveness, counter attack, or retreat into my silent kingdom where only I am allowed entrance. Sound familiar?
There is a different way. I can choose to enter into constructive dialogue.
I can choose to seek to understand the other.
I can choose to listen and to respond in a way that furthers the relationship.
Have you found yourself in situations where you chose to set aside your initial ‘gut reaction’ and respond constructively? What was happening? Did it help to forge a more deeper dialogue?
Before I take my last breath, before my last flower withers, I wish to live, I wish to make love, I wish to be in this world close to those who need me, those who I need, in order to learn, comprehend and rediscover that I can be and I want to be better at every moment.
One common mistake is to think that one reality is the reality. You must always be prepared to leave one reality for a greater one.
I spent much of my professional life as qualitative researcher. My students and collected stories and tried to make sense out of the collective stories to assist those we worked with to recognize the legitmacy of a different reality.
I’ve fallen many times into the trap of believing my way of seeing was the only way of seeing. Seldom did this kind of thinking produce any benificial results for me or anyone else.
Growth for me occurred when I recognized each of us has a limited view of reality. We need each other to piece our views of reality together to create a beautiful mosaic of differing perspectives.
Have you experienced an aha moment when you understood your view of reality was microcosmic?
Was it humbling? Did it inspire you to learn more about other viewpoints?